Admit it. You have received a DM from a complete stranger on social media and you rolled your eyes to yourself and said, “What the F#ck?”

And of course, you would neeevvveeerr do that to someone else.

But what if you were that person?

That is why I am here. I am here to save the world, one creepy-ass DMer at a time.

I am not here to complain. Well, actually, yes I am -but in a very constructive way.

This article is going to solve the problem so many untrained, unprofessional, creepy DM peeps have when DMing people on social media.

But first, if you are the quintessential, professional expert on the DM process, everyone loves you, your proverbial DM shit don’t stink, and your DM rocks like Steven Tyler playing Madison Square Garden in his prime days with Aerosmith, good for you. And just so you don’t think you’ve wasted your time here, here is a picture of pregnant Beyonce.


Continue to have an awesome life and please teach others to DM as well as you.

For the rest of you, let’s f#cking get real -because who has time to waste? Actually, I do as I am financially independent, but that’s not the point. I want YOU to achieve every success you have ever wanted in your life and today my friend, I want you to learn how to use DM the proper way. The way it is meant to be used, so you can quit creeping people out.


self aware DM


In layman’s terms, this means you should know if, and when you are being creepy in DM. And if you don’t, let’s help you become self-aware so you can be like Diddy and get everything in life that you ever wanted.




You see, I have a serious love-hate relationship with DM or “direct message” for those of you who are not in the know of social media chatting.

I gave up voice mail about five years ago and now, I wish I could have a DM auto-response to filter out the bullshit -like I do on my voice mail that says, “I do not respond to pointless direct messages.”


DM’s like:


“What’s up?”



“How’s it going?”

“I like you”

“You’re awesome”

and ANY FUCKING EMOTICON as a first message.


Aside from being just plain creepy, it is unprofessional and tells me immediately a lot about you.

What is tells me is:

  1. You have no training on written communication.
  2. You are socially awkward.
  3. You are insecure.
  4. You might show up at my house uninvited while I am on the couch in my underwear.
  5. You need help.

Like I said, instead of sitting here bitching and complaining about you, I am going with #5 and am going to help you out.

But obviously, first I need to beat some #realtalk into that brain of yours to over-exaggerate the point. You really need to quit creeping people out. It’s time to turn that DM of yours into a money-making, date-attracting, MC lover-having type of DM that we all need in our lives.

You may be asking yourself, “Who the f#ck is this guy acting like he is all that and bag of chips when it comes to DM.



Here’s my bag of chips to prove I’m all that

I get it.

I really do.

And that is a valid question.

Why am I a person that can help? What gives me the experience and wisdom to know how to help someone who is unknowingly (at least I hope it’s unknowingly) creeping people out?

Candidly, I have been spewed on via DM more times than that XXX-rated vixen who achieved the world record for….. well, you get the point. TMI

As the CEO, Founder, and BSD (Look it up) of my previous company, I was called on by sales people daily. Whether it was by DM, phone, or email, I have spoken to some of the most experienced professional salespeople in the world -who I freaking love because it is refreshing to speak to a real sales professional, even if I am not interested in their product or service. During this time, I also experienced the other end of the spectrum: the new, amateur, untrained sales person, who’ve caused me to consider jumping off the Freedom Tower just to save myself from the pain of their creepy pauses and lack of ability to have any type of real conversation.

And if eleven years with that company wasn’t enough experience, for the last two years, on social media through my @askamillionaire moniker on Instagram alone, I have received well over 100,000 DMs. I am just guessing. It could be 10,000 or it could be a million. Probably more like a million because that goes with @askamillionaire, and who doesn’t want to ask a millionaire a question? Kinda goes with the territory.

Let me tell you, you should see some of the messages I get with that Instagram account name. Actually, I can show you better than I can tell you.


direct message



Based on the knowledge derived from being on the receiving end of tens of thousands of creepers, you will simply have to take my word that I am the world’s most renowned expert on this subject. Well, aside from every hot girl who stupidly spends her Friday nights giving her digits to every “producer/entrepreneur/actor/musician/hedge fund” guy at the bar.



Sales 101

Class is in session.

I consulted with my sales trainer and coach, Tom Black, who has trained more sales people than Kim Kardashian has sold her soul to in pursuit of money -yeah, that many. He created the perfect DM introduction script for me and for a $250,000 consultation, he can help you create a custom one for each type of new DM you want to send. I’ve got this one for you, but you will have to pay for your own if this one doesn’t fit your particular DM situation.

Before I share this 7-Step message, I know many of you creepers will say to yourself, “This is f#ucking stupid, I could have taught someone this system and saved @askamillionaire the $250,000. If this is you, please do some additional research on becoming self-aware. You actually don’t even know you’re the creeper. You would have never known if I had not shared this article with you. Geez. Can’t we all just get along?

This example assumes you want to reach out to someone like @askamillionaire or any other social media influencer like @garyvee @tailopez @andyfrisella @dailydose @millionaire_motivator etc. for business.

You are “friends” with them or you follow them on social media, so you “know them” -and they have absolutely no clue who you are. Odds are, they don’t even open their own DMs but hey, ya never know. It’s worth a shot right? They are out poppin’ bottles, cruising in the Bentley, dippin in the pool, eating caviar while you watch their every move yearning for that lifestyle.

You can feel it. You can imagine so much cash it takes a bodyguard to carry it around for you. You may need four bodyguards around you, with a red velvet rope at all times, just to keep the gold diggers away. And now, you have THE GREATEST BUSINESS IDEA to ever hit the planet. It will make billions (with a B) guaranteed. You just need five minutes to explain it (because every billion dollar idea can be explained in 5 minutes, right?) and you just know they will want to join you and conquer the world.

Instead of your normal “hey” DM, you know, the one that never gets a response, it is time to break out the time-tested, $250,000 DM introduction that is impossible to fail. Well… maybe close to impossible -but sure AF better than your “Hey” DM.




Get ready to screenshot. And if you screenshot these steps and post on Instagram and tag @askamillionaire, I will personally like your picture and leave a comment. It might be my marketing team because remember, I am off in my Bentley, eatin’ caviar and poppin’ bottles in St Tropez.


Here are your 7 Steps:


Step One: Use their name

Step Two: Compliment

Step Three: Be Humble

Step Four: Give Example


Step Six: Say thank you

Step Seven: Closing Compliment


“Hi Shawn,

I love what you’re doing on Instagram.

I look forward to your posts each day. It is really helping me in many ways.

The other day you said we should …… and I did it and it was a great success.

I was wondering, what is the best way someone could have a phone call or a two-way conversation with you?

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this, I look forward to your response.

I hope you have an amazing day and once again, thanks so much for being you.”


Now let me share a story with you because many of you cynical f#cks will mock this and try and act like it is too simple and you can’t believe that I paid Tom $250,000 for this one DM script.

This is a story about Charles Steinmetz. His contributions to mathematics and electrical engineering made him one of the most beloved and instantly recognizable men of his time.

While he was working at General Electric, he helped Henry Ford.

This is the story:

Ford, whose electrical engineers couldn’t solve some problems they were having with a gigantic generator, called Steinmetz into the plant. Upon arriving, Steinmetz rejected all assistance and asked only for a notebook, a pencil, and a cot. According to observers, Steinmetz listened to the generator and scribbled computations on the notepad for two straight days and nights. On the second night, he asked for a ladder, climbed up the generator and made a chalk mark on its side. Then he told Ford’s skeptical engineers to remove a plate at the mark and replace sixteen windings from the field coil. They did, and the generator performed to perfection.

Henry Ford was thrilled until he got an invoice from General Electric in the amount of $10,000. Ford acknowledged Steinmetz’s success but balked at the figure. He asked for an itemized bill.

Steinmetz responded personally to Ford’s request with the following:

Making chalk mark on generator:    $1.00

Knowing where to make mark:         $9,999.00

Ford paid the bill.

This story communicates the need for all of us to be self-aware when we reach out to strangers. We may know them, but we have to remember that they don’t know us. Let’s be cognizant of the fact that we are interrupting someone’s day and we should respect their time.

And like anything, if you want to succeed, there are scientifically-backed facts and processes that can help you find success. Sure, you can make a hundred million dollars with absolutely no business experience by spending only $1. Yeah, we all like to dream about winning the lottery, but what are the odds really?

You can depend on those types of odds, or you can implement Tom Black’s $250,000 sales training strategy that I’ve paid for on your behalf. You can do this with or without screenshotting the 7 Steps and posting them on Instagram/tagging @askamillionaire –that’s your call.

I’m just here to help. That is just the giving type of guy I am.

BUT WAIT, there’s more! Ala @realkevinharrington, one of the original Sharks.

Because you are so thirsty for knowledge, I convinced Tom -and you don’t even want to know how I did it, to share some other sales strategies from his arsenal of sales training videos.

Just click here < yes the blue-underlined hyper linked word.

Here you will gain access to training videos from Tom’s sales training library. They are offered to you to help you get your shit together and not be a creeper.

Enjoy, and feel free to DM me on Insta to share your results of putting the process to work for you!



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